Comments on: Biological Clock for Men? http://blog.daddydaily.com/2007/09/17/biological-clock-for-men/ blogs for expectant and new parents Fri, 05 Sep 2008 14:33:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.2 by: bob http://blog.daddydaily.com/2007/09/17/biological-clock-for-men/#comment-5 Sat, 22 Sep 2007 17:47:52 +0000 http://blog.daddydaily.com/2007/09/17/biological-clock-for-men/#comment-5 I am 44 yrs old and a father of 4. My wife is 13 years younger. My youngest is 1, oldest is 9. I hear your concern for having enough time for the new life you have to care for. At first we decided not to be a 2 income family and for my wife to stay at home with the kids. It is a real struggle to balance gaining enough income to support 6 people in a home and still spend enough time with these children who look up to you for companionship and love. I kind of had to leave that to my wife to do. Now things are really hard because my wife is now my EX and I'm a single father of 4. What advice can I give you? You do what you can. You plan weekends for your kids not for you. Sleep overs with their friends at your place and your the "Butler". Ask them to "help" you with the dishes. I find that they don't care what your "doing" all they care is that you include them. When I make french toast in the morning my 2 yr old's job it to hold the spatula until I need it. She loves it! My 6 yr old loves to load the laundry in the washer then I "help" him put in the soap. All this is mundane chores until you include your kids then it's fun for them and time well spent with them for you. Personal time with just you and your spouse or you and your friends is great. Just plan the "sitter" to do something fun for dinner or a DVD and some popcorn or twister and toast with honey. Be creative and remember your childhood. What would you love to have done on Fri night with the sitter while Mom and Dad go to the movie? Oh and read to them every night. I "help" pick a chapter book and read one or two chapters to them every night. Their last image before sleep is your soft voice. You can make every minute count. Good Luck Mr. Daddy I am 44 yrs old and a father of 4. My wife is 13 years younger. My youngest is 1, oldest is 9. I hear your concern for having enough time for the new life you have to care for. At first we decided not to be a 2 income family and for my wife to stay at home with the kids. It is a real struggle to balance gaining enough income to support 6 people in a home and still spend enough time with these children who look up to you for companionship and love. I kind of had to leave that to my wife to do. Now things are really hard because my wife is now my EX and I’m a single father of 4. What advice can I give you? You do what you can. You plan weekends for your kids not for you. Sleep overs with their friends at your place and your the “Butler”. Ask them to “help” you with the dishes. I find that they don’t care what your “doing” all they care is that you include them. When I make french toast in the morning my 2 yr old’s job it to hold the spatula until I need it. She loves it! My 6 yr old loves to load the laundry in the washer then I “help” him put in the soap. All this is mundane chores until you include your kids then it’s fun for them and time well spent with them for you.
Personal time with just you and your spouse or you and your friends is great. Just plan the “sitter” to do something fun for dinner or a DVD and some popcorn or twister and toast with honey. Be creative and remember your childhood. What would you love to have done on Fri night with the sitter while Mom and Dad go to the movie?
Oh and read to them every night. I “help” pick a chapter book and read one or two chapters to them every night. Their last image before sleep is your soft voice.
You can make every minute count.
Good Luck

Mr. Daddy

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