Stress!
What's a man to do...?
Stress -… physical, mental, or emotional strain or tension… (The above definition was taken from The Random House College Dictionary – Revised Edition Deluxe (copyright © 1984), only version lying around!)
Stress seems to be the hot topic for the modern dad there is everything from work to finances, raising good kids, keeping a healthy relationship with your significant other, and many, many more…! How do we manage through the tough times? Who do we go to? How do we deal with the stress of everyday life and still get out of bed?
When was the last time you asked your dad about how he dealt with dropping off the kids at daycare while running late to work for a job that does not even appreciate you? How about this one, out having beers with the boys (lucky if you have time for this) ask how they deal with self-doubts and fears of being a good father? Talk about a quick way to end guys’ night out.
Stress can be overwhelming, especially, for the new dad. There is so much to deal with and it can hit you all at once. So, let’s hear your thoughts - what’s on the mind of the dad? What stresses him out? How does he overcomes and manage stress?
Posted on Saturday, September 22nd, 2007 at 2:47 am.
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September 22nd, 2007 at 6:18 pm
Im a single dad of a 5 yr old boy, dealing with some serious STRESS with ex girlfriend of mother of 5 yr old son. She argues, complains about everything, she insults my family, girlfriend… I pay child support, our babysitter is my grandmother who has been taking care of my son since he was 3 months old.. I do nothing and ask for nothing when it comes to my son… theres alot more but to much to write!!!
DOES ANY ONE HAVE ANY ADVICE TO GIVE ME, IM 31 YRS OLD AND IM READY TO EXPLODE!!!
September 22nd, 2007 at 6:20 pm
Stress is a big problem for me and this month has been extra stressful. Several weeks ago I found out my father was diagnosed with lunch cancer (he never smoked). The cancer was contained in only one lunch and they did surgery to remove the cancer. So far everything is looking very good and my father is now back home recovering with my mother.
In addition I have a full time job and a wife who is suffering from depression. I have a two year old little boy and a four year old little girl. The family is great and my wife is wonderful, but dealing with the children can be stressful.
I have created a new website for new dads and fathers of small children. This was not supposed to be stressful! The whole idea was to create a site that is male oriented instead of information from the mother’s point of view. I don’t think there are as many father sites as sites for mothers. My site was supposed to be fun to do, which it is, but the fact that is it harder to write than I originally expected also creates more stress. I have difficulty making the time I need to work on it along with all the stuff around the home that needs done. That and the simple fact that writing about my children and the lessons they teach me is a lot harder and requires more effort than I thought it would, but is more about writers block than stress. However, like everything else in life that you don’t feel you are getting done.it seems to add to the daily stress.
Deep belly breathing works if you can remember to make yourself practice it. This is when you stop and take deep breaths for the count of 10. Just breathing deep enough to see you belly move up and down is a simple activity that will help lower your stress level. The trick is, you have to remember to do it and practice it on a daily basis or even better, practice it multiple times a day.
Exercise is of course a good outlet for stress but didn’t I already mention the problem with lack of time? I am way over weight and need to exercise, but can’t get myself to find the time to get any. Sound familiar.
Suggestions? That’s enough from me for now.
September 22nd, 2007 at 6:22 pm
HM
HERES STRESS I LOVE MY NEW BORN SON OF SIX MONTHS MORE THEN I LOVE MY LIFE. THE MOTHER AND I ARE AT ODDS AND FIGHTING ALL THE TIME.
SHE LIVES WITH HER MOTHER AND HAS BEEN FORCING ME TO FIND A NEW PLACE AND MOVE IN WITH HER AND HER MOTHER BECAUSE SHES AFRAID HE MOTHER WHO IS IN HER 40′S MIGHT RELAPSE AND GO BACK TO THE LIFE SHE USED TO LIVE ON DRUGS. I REFUSE TO MOVE IN WITH BOTH OF THEM,NOW I HAVE MY SON IN THE MIDDLE OF THIS AND WHEN I GO TO SEE HIM I HAVE TO HAVE THE PRESENCE OF HER MOTHER IN THE BACK GROUND HATING ME. THAT CRAP WORK AND BALANCING MY FATHER TIME. BOUNCING FROM MANHATTEN TO MY HOUSE IN THE BX EVERYDAY. TIRED STRESSED AND DRINKING MORE BEACUSE OF IT. MY NERVES ARE SHOT. I RESENT MY SONS MOTHER FOR ALL THAT SHE HAS BEEN PUTTING ME THROUGH SINCE MY SON WAS BORN. I FEEL ALL ALONE . I HAVE NO FAMILY TO SPEAK OF AND ALL I CAN THINK OF IS MY BABY BOYS SMILE WHEN HE SEE’S ME. STRESS