Comments on: Miscarriage and Men http://blog.daddydaily.com/2008/01/25/miscarriage-men/ blogs for expectant and new parents Fri, 05 Sep 2008 14:18:02 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.2 by: thomas http://blog.daddydaily.com/2008/01/25/miscarriage-men/#comment-64 Sat, 09 Feb 2008 01:52:25 +0000 http://blog.daddydaily.com/2008/01/25/miscarriage-men/#comment-64 this by far is one of the worst things that can happend to expecting parents. i have not had to experience this, but i feel for any parent who has had to endure. i don't know how you guys do it. this by far is one of the worst things that can happend to expecting parents. i have not had to experience this, but i feel for any parent who has had to endure. i don’t know how you guys do it.

]]> by: mike http://blog.daddydaily.com/2008/01/25/miscarriage-men/#comment-9 Sat, 22 Sep 2007 18:00:31 +0000 http://blog.daddydaily.com/2008/01/25/miscarriage-men/#comment-9 My wife and I lost a daughter 12 years ago November 1st. She was stillborn. We attended therapy sessions, which only made things worse us. I could not sit there. I didn't want to talk. I know now that I made the wrong decision. We all grieve differently. What gets us by to this day is the thought that maybe she was sick and would have suffered or not lived much longer. We believe that she is in a much better place. With God, she can feel no pain or sadness. We have an Angel on our shoulder. It does get easier as time passes. You don't visit the Cemetary as much, usually on Holidays or days where you need to talk to them. Holidays are always hard, but you manage to get through them. We have two sons ages 9 and 13 and a daughter thats 10. God has truely belssed us. We have another son due on the 25th of January. Please understand that no matter what the time frame, a loss is a loss. Try and be positive and look forward to the future. God is always there and works in mysterious ways. I was very anrgy with God and asked how he could do this to us? I too asked what we did wrong, what could we have done different, you got your son back. I have overcame that anger and asked God for forgiveness. You and your wife will have children. The body knows. There must have been something that was not right. Be there for each other and you will get through this. If you need to talk there are groups or family therapists you can talk with. My name is Mike and I would be more than happy to speak with you if it will help. God bless you and your wife. My wife and I lost a daughter 12 years ago November 1st. She was stillborn. We attended therapy sessions, which only made things worse us. I could not sit there. I didn’t want to talk. I know now that I made the wrong decision. We all grieve differently. What gets us by to this day is the thought that maybe she was sick and would have suffered or not lived much longer. We believe that she is in a much better place. With God, she can feel no pain or sadness. We have an Angel on our shoulder. It does get easier as time passes. You don’t visit the Cemetary as much, usually on Holidays or days where you need to talk to them. Holidays are always hard, but you manage to get through them. We have two sons ages 9 and 13 and a daughter thats 10. God has truely belssed us. We have another son due on the 25th of January. Please understand that no matter what the time frame, a loss is a loss. Try and be positive and look forward to the future. God is always there and works in mysterious ways. I was very anrgy with God and asked how he could do this to us? I too asked what we did wrong, what could we have done different, you got your son back. I have overcame that anger and asked God for forgiveness. You and your wife will have children. The body knows. There must have been something that was not right. Be there for each other and you will get through this. If you need to talk there are groups or family therapists you can talk with. My name is Mike and I would be more than happy to speak with you if it will help.
God bless you and your wife.

]]> by: jd http://blog.daddydaily.com/2008/01/25/miscarriage-men/#comment-7 Sat, 22 Sep 2007 17:56:17 +0000 http://blog.daddydaily.com/2008/01/25/miscarriage-men/#comment-7 The happy news... My wife and I have a perfectly healthy baby boy b. 2-22-07 The rough patch... we succeeded at pregnancy in 2005; it seemed too easy... we announced to our families that we were expecting, etc. we had a follow up ultrasound at 7-8 weeks...only to find out that the fetus was 'demised', in OB-parlance naturally, we were disappointed...treatment involved a D&C procedure because when the fetus' life ends, the uterus attempts to reabsorb the tissue, which can interfere with future pregnancies. That interrupted her menstrual cycle, and put us on hold for several months. The genetic examination of the fetus turned up a severe chromosomal defect...in the slim chance that it had survived to birth, it would have been doomed to a short, painful life. So nature has a way of dealing with nonviable pregnancies. It was some consolation to know this, and to get good OB advice...as it turns out, pregnancy is statistically far more likely to fail than succeed. Reason aside, it was upsetting at the time, especially the feeling of 'letting everyone else down', even though you really aren't. We just kept our chins up, and after many more months of attempts, I'm happy to say we got it right. The happy news…
My wife and I have a perfectly healthy baby boy b. 2-22-07

The rough patch…
we succeeded at pregnancy in 2005; it seemed too easy… we announced to our families that we were expecting, etc. we had a follow up ultrasound at 7-8 weeks…only to find out that the fetus was ‘demised’, in OB-parlance naturally, we were disappointed…treatment involved a D&C procedure because when the fetus’ life ends, the uterus attempts to reabsorb the tissue, which can interfere with future pregnancies. That interrupted her menstrual cycle, and put us on hold for several months.

The genetic examination of the fetus turned up a severe chromosomal defect…in the slim chance that it had survived to birth, it would have been doomed to a short, painful life. So nature has a way of dealing with nonviable pregnancies. It was some consolation to know this, and to get good OB advice…as it turns out, pregnancy is statistically far more likely to fail than succeed.

Reason aside, it was upsetting at the time, especially the feeling of ‘letting everyone else down’, even though you really aren’t.

We just kept our chins up, and after many more months of attempts, I’m happy to say we got it right.

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